Hey Lovebirds,
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Welcome to another Honest Note with Doyinsola. I am sure that by now you are already experiencing the love blues. If Valentine people have not started pressing your necks, then you are on the wrong side of the world. And with the way it is going, relationship people plan to press our necks to the fullest. If you thought pyjamas people did the most during Christmas, wait for what they plan to do this Valentine. Like someone said on Twitter, just tell us your name, your partner’s name, and what the Lord has done for you. We don’t have all day.
Jokes aside, this note is not for single people alone; for relationship people, bring your ears here because I have one or two for you.
This is my first Valentine as a single person in a long time, so I am used to all the lovey-dovey and everything in between. I am pained o that I might not be getting that full-scale this year, but there is nothing there to miss. I am looking forward to what my next experience will be like, and I am sure it will be fun.
Yet, I have spent time reflecting, and for the first time, I am happy that the relationship didn’t continue. If it had, is that how I would have been dwelling in the land of feeling morose and sorry for myself and forgetting that I am loved at home by family and friends???
Also, for the first time, I feel confident enough to let go, and if you are like me, it is time to let go. Whether a lover’s breakup or a friendship breakup. Give yourself the chance to love another person, or for another person to love you. Let go of offence, anger, bitterness, and pain. It’s too heavy to keep dragging along.
I feel this note is becoming very long. All I want to say is that if you are a single pringle, let go of the past. It is only when you do so that better will come. Don’t let regret hold you back. Take yourself on a date this Valentine, surprise yourself, or even buy gifts for yourself. You deserve all that love.
If you are in a relationship and you are still holding on to a past lover, something is wrong with your head. Heal and move on—or just break up. Don’t let something that did not happen ruin what you have. After all, a bird in hand is worth two in the bush.
I hope I did not shout too much.
Thank you for coming to my pep talk, as I love to say, a drop of honey for your day…
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