Comparison Kills Your Joy

Learn to celebrate the small things

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I didn’t plan on writing to you today, but I realised the importance of it and the opportunity you have given me to enter your mail every week. So, in my last Honest Note, I told you about how we are not all born with silver spoons, but at least we have a spoon. Today, I’ll be telling you to forget about spoons altogether. Because some of us can shift the goal post and start comparing spoons and belittling ours, forgetting it is how we have been feeding. We start asking questions like, “Why is mine not as shiny as her own?" or “Why is the hand of my spoon short?”. Appreciate what you have.

Why am I telling you all this?

I have been shouting for the longest time that I have not been seeing the type of results I wanted and have been comparing my growth with others. You know the usual vanity metrics, likes, follows, etc. I have been missing out on celebrating my wins. Comparison has been taking a lot away from me without me knowing it.

How did I wake up?

1. I saw someone with a similar achievement as me. Her articles were on the first page of google search. Then, it hit me. At least 3 of my blog post on my own website are on the first page.

2. I did not know the value of one. One person is enough. 1 person in your community is all you need. Instead of thinking you are 1 person short, see it as being one person more than where you started.

3. I realise that I was focusing on another person’s progress and journey and not mine. We are all channelling our energy to different places. I cannot be learning architecture and complain that another person is healing the sick.

As young people, the urge to compare will be there. All you have to do is celebrate your own wins, learn the value of one and focus on your journey.

Comparison is insightful but when you start becoming bitter and wishing the other person to fail, you are slowly moving into witchcraft.

But we rise above this right?

Till I come your way again, a drop of honey for your day

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