A Note on Green Lights

When your crush is wilfully blind...

My fellow Gen Zs,
and other guests…

My problem today is love.

Yes, love!

L O V E in fully emboldened all-caps letters.

But before we start, I know I offended you in my many disappearing stunts. I am so sorry. I have let life happen to me so much. I have been everywhere, YouTube, The Blog, and TikTok. The newsletter and Instagram pages were beyond my powers at the time. I talked about it on YouTube, it was a Lazy Girl Era, an unproductive state, but that's gone now.

I am hoping I win your forgiveness with this note.

So, back to today's gist. My fellow Gen Zs, what do you do when you have a crush who is determined not to see? There have been green lights, green flags, green apples, everything green, but it seems this crush is colour-blind.

For people who do not understand, this is a good thing. It is a post-breakfast recovery syndrome. Hard girl, hard girl has decided to stand in love. Yes, stand and not fall. Nigerian men pressed my eyes in hot water the last time I fell, so I am standing this time.

A Little Back Story…

So, the last time I had an active crush was in 2019. This should put things in perspective a little more. This crush will later grow into an eye-scratching, pepper-pouring, heartbreaking, breakfast-serving, rollercoaster relationship. It was a lot. But you know how you read in books that the characters had butterflies in their belly? The crush that you have already planned your wedding, life, children's names and growing old together with grey hairs? The Mills and Boon novel of 300 pages we read in secondary school in 2 days before passing it on to our girlies? Na me be this, the character they spoke about. So you can imagine me at my big age having another crush in 2024, that's a whooping sum of 5 years.

Now, this crush doesn't present with all of those shenanigans. Just plain old, “Oh, I like this person.” Truly, it's better because my crush has ended. I don't have the energy to pursue it.

But if I decide to, what do I do? After all, I flashed, showed and gave green lights to this crush of mine. All shades of green. go ahead, dear crush, say the words… Or is green too dull a colour? Should I try gold?

What do I do next?

1. Shoot my shot? Nope, for the first time, I am with society on this one. There is no modern woman anything here. I should shoot my shot and meet disgrace and suffer second-hand embarrassment? Sis says no.

2. Continue hoping? Well, the bible says hope deferred makes the heart sick, and I don't want my heart to be sick.

3. Wait it out? Time waits for no man. In this case no woman. I feel like I can uncrush at any time and move on.

4. Pray to God to touch his heart? This is doable. But it brings up many questions for me that make me realise that I don't actually want to know the answer.

5. Move on? Right now, this is the next best thing to do. I pray for this crush, that I do not move on before their vision is restored.

I have concluded that guys are blind.

The strange thing about guys is when you now finally decide to move on that's when the signals in their head click. But oh no! You are now planning your future and your new love is planning a surprise marriage proposal with your friends. The scales will then fall off the crush's eyes and they start declaring feelings.

This is not Hollywood!

My crush is not subscribed to this newsletter. Strangely, amebo will bring some people here. I see you and I know what you are. But you are not my willfully blind crush.

My willfully blind crush will see this and become willfully mute. He won't poke fun. Just pick up his big head and move on.

I will also move on.

Goodbye to our love that never existed.

My fellow partners in love, what will you do when your crush is willfully blind? And why do we always crush on unavailable and unattainable people?

Share your thoughts with me, you just may hold the solution to my dilemma in your hands.

As usual, a drop of honey for your day...

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